I Want What I Have.

When we're living in a world that's always boasting of something bigger, better, smarter or faster, looking for the next best thing can leave us feeling unfulfilled, empty and lost. Now, please let me put a disclaimer on this. I am in no way claiming that I am the person that has found perfect harmony and balance in all that I have but I do strive to enjoy the things that surround me instead of always thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

I pronounce this to my friends often...this philosophy about our fast-paced world and that no matter how hard we try, we'll never really be able to quite keep up with it. So, learning to love ourselves for all that we do possess - be they material possessions, physical health & well being, or the intangible - is a much better way to find happiness in our lives.

I was moved to share this state of mind with you when I read the Mantra of the Month in Aprils issue of Shape on page 32. I could relate and thought it was brilliantly put. And to quote, "I agree that it's only human of us to want more friends, better clothes and more money." All very important and a real part of our lives. But sometimes I truly get worn down by my rapidly growing list of self improvements and must haves... the latest iphone or technology, another pair of pumps in a different color, a new bathing suit to add to the already very large collection of suits I have just because I'm sick of my options, always feeling the need to try a new restaurant instead of counting on the tried and true spots that I love.

I encourage you to try to focus on what you do have. Go shopping in your own closet, clean out your makeup bag, go digging through some old pictures to remind yourself of all of the great memories you have to be proud of, re-read your journal to reminisce about all of the amazing experiences that you've created for yourself. Focus on your positive physical traits instead of always focusing on the cellulite that you'll probably never work off because its hereditary or look at your hair from another angle and try wearing it a slightly different way, maybe part it on the opposite side or braid it.

You get it...let's refocus on us. Just the way we are.

Signing off Loving Me The Way I Am,
Renee Brennan